We hear the expression “Life is short” all the time. Constantly we are told to live life to the fullest because we don’t know how long it will last but how many of us actually take that concept to heart. Much like the numerous other clichés that we are inundated with on a daily basis, have we become numb also to the fact that life really is short. Tragedies happen every day. Accidents happen everywhere. Death does not discriminate. This leads me to my two main points of this entry.
Number 1 – Are you living the life that you want to live?
Number 2 – Do the people you love really, truly know that you love them?
Are you living the life that you want to live?
Let me pose that question again in another way. Are you actually happy? If you answered yes to that question, skip down to point number two (and high-five yourself) because you are one of the few… If you answered no, tell me this: Are you doing anything right now to fix that? Life is hard sometimes, no doubt about it. We all go through different life experiences that can shake the foundation that we have built our lives upon, and for some, we can break from time to time. No one expects you to be perfect. It is okay to fall sometimes. One of my favourite quotes is by Brazilian lyricist and novelist, Paulo Coelho. He says,
“Lo que ahoga a alguien no es caerse al rio, sino mantenerse sumergido en él.”
which translated says, “You drown not by falling into a river, but by staying submerged in it.” Another quote that I absolutely adore that pertains to this thought is by Eric Roth, (not actually F. Scott Fitzgerald like many internet photo’s suggest), and it says,
“For what it’s worth … it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
My father tells me all the time that if I’m not happy, or where I want to be, I need to stop complaining and start changing because life is too short to be anything but happy. So bottom line, if you’re not living the life that you want to be living – change something. Easier said than done, I know, but at least take some steps. Make a list of things that make you happy. Revisit childhood dreams that maybe someone convinced you were unrealistic. Do little things that brighten your life on a day-to-day basis. Put some sunflowers in your room. DO SOMETHING.
Do the people you love really, truly know that you love them?
Life has a sneaky way of making us think that we have forever and a day. Personally, I forget all the time that time has not been promised to me. Usually, I get very introspective at night when I’m about to drift off to sleep. I’ll start thinking about all of the things I want to do, and all of the things I want to say to certain people. I make myself a promise every night that during my next day, I will be more bold. I won’t fear reactions to my own, personal feelings. They are mine. Then I fall asleep and when I wake up (usually late after throwing my alarm across the room) I get right into the grind of life. Rushing around to work or appointments while trying to stay healthy and maintain an organized life. All my thoughts about how life is actually supposed to be and all of those promises I made myself the night before are still under the covers in my bed, waiting for me to crawl back into them. I am guilty of that. I am guilty of letting day to day issues and conflicts weigh down on my head and my heart. I let the air get heavy. But you know what I never do? Leave my house without telling whoever is home that I love them, including my dogs. I never hang up the phone with someone that I genuinly love without making sure they hear that. Too many of us do. I love you. See, it’s not that hard. I. Love. You. I care about your well-being. I hope that you are happy… because I LOVE YOU. Everybody’s got time for that. Buddah said it best:
My cousin, his girlfriend and her family suffered two tragic losses in one day. One a grandfather, the other, her 7-year old nephew. I felt the hearts break of all of our extended family for them. Life is not a given. Tragedies happen every day. Accidents happen everywhere. Death does not discriminate… Do the people you love really, truly know that you love them?
I love you.